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.We should never underestimate the lasting power of true friendship. Yes, some so-called friends are shallow and easily offended, especially when they are nursing a hurt ego, while others may well need time to understand that a hurt ego needs nursing back to health, and not left to fester. (Yes, I know I have said much the same thing many times on my blogs, but, something worth saying is always worth repeating.)
It can come as a shock to some family members and friends when a gay man or woman flings open his or her dark closet and lets in the sunlight. Sunlight can be blinding sometimes.
Years ago, when I was just a boy at school, a teacher asked why I had fallen out with my best friend. I can’t remember over what we had argued, but I do recall it was something that seemed important at the time, but with hindsight was trivial. The teacher made a comment I have never forgotten, to the effect that a friendship worth having is always worth saving, whatever it takes.
Over the years, I have fallen out with lots of people for various reasons (as most if not all of us do) and I always ask myself this question, does it really matter? Sometimes, the answer is an unequivocal ‘yes’ in which case I will always do my best to patch things up with that person. Where the friendship is strong, I always succeed, and if it means swallowing a little pride, it has always been worth it.
I guess there is nothing like falling out with someone to make us realise whether or not we really want that person in our life. If we do, we just have to hope they feel the same way, and wherever the friendship runs true, an olive branch will (nearly) always do the trick. Someone, though, has to make the first move...
WINTER WONDERLAND
The first snow of winter falling,
as I walked in woods alone,
I heard a familiar voice calling,
asking where I had gone
I'd seen nothing of you for ages,
since we’d argued one day
over filling time’s blank pages
with graffiti for my being gay
Suddenly, I heard a robin making
the case for your defence,
our friendship up for the saving,
no matter what odds against
You said I should have been open
about my being gay;
I'd raged, hurt by your reaction,
ignoring all you had to say
Calmer as the snow began settling,
(my feet, minds of their own)
I faced demons I’d been wrestling,
resolved to put them down
At your front door, I rang the bell,
wondering if you’d answer;
when you did, a big hug said it all,
the best of friends forever
Copyright R. N. Taber, 2015
.We should never underestimate the lasting power of true friendship. Yes, some so-called friends are shallow and easily offended, especially when they are nursing a hurt ego, while others may well need time to understand that a hurt ego needs nursing back to health, and not left to fester. (Yes, I know I have said much the same thing many times on my blogs, but, something worth saying is always worth repeating.)
It can come as a shock to some family members and friends when a gay man or woman flings open his or her dark closet and lets in the sunlight. Sunlight can be blinding sometimes.
Years ago, when I was just a boy at school, a teacher asked why I had fallen out with my best friend. I can’t remember over what we had argued, but I do recall it was something that seemed important at the time, but with hindsight was trivial. The teacher made a comment I have never forgotten, to the effect that a friendship worth having is always worth saving, whatever it takes.
Over the years, I have fallen out with lots of people for various reasons (as most if not all of us do) and I always ask myself this question, does it really matter? Sometimes, the answer is an unequivocal ‘yes’ in which case I will always do my best to patch things up with that person. Where the friendship is strong, I always succeed, and if it means swallowing a little pride, it has always been worth it.
I guess there is nothing like falling out with someone to make us realise whether or not we really want that person in our life. If we do, we just have to hope they feel the same way, and wherever the friendship runs true, an olive branch will (nearly) always do the trick. Someone, though, has to make the first move...
WINTER WONDERLAND
The first snow of winter falling,
as I walked in woods alone,
I heard a familiar voice calling,
asking where I had gone
I'd seen nothing of you for ages,
since we’d argued one day
over filling time’s blank pages
with graffiti for my being gay
Suddenly, I heard a robin making
the case for your defence,
our friendship up for the saving,
no matter what odds against
You said I should have been open
about my being gay;
I'd raged, hurt by your reaction,
ignoring all you had to say
Calmer as the snow began settling,
(my feet, minds of their own)
I faced demons I’d been wrestling,
resolved to put them down
At your front door, I rang the bell,
wondering if you’d answer;
when you did, a big hug said it all,
the best of friends forever
Copyright R. N. Taber, 2015
