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When I
was 14 years-old, my family relocated from my home town to a new housing estate
in the countryside. Much as I love visiting
the countryside, I hated living there
and was glad to leave within a year or so of leaving school. I hated everyone
else feeling they had a right to know
everyone else’s business. It was hard to keep any secrets.
So you
can imagine what it was like for a gay lad, having to keep his sexuality a secret
not only from family and friends, but also from the whole estate and original (delightful)
village of which it was an eyesore of an extension! Gay relationships were
illegal in the UK until 1967, the year I was 22.]
So I have
been pleased to hear from gay people who come out in the country and been accepted
by local people although I have to say that, on the whole, I hear the opposite.
The majority of gay men and women living in rural areas, in the UK as well as
worldwide, still feel they must keep their sexuality a secret. I dare say they
suffer much the same torment as I did all those years ago.
When, oh,
when will everyone realise that sexuality is only a part of who we are, and a
very private part; it is no one else’s damn business? We are human beings like
everyone else who have as much to offer our local communities as anyone, and don't deserve to be stigmatised simply because too few among the heterosexual
majority understand what it means to be gay or some (if not most) religious
groups are intrinsically homophobic. I should not have to be saying this in the
21st century, for goodness sake. It should be taken for granted. Oh, but I wish...
Why, oh, why do so many people worldwide continue to believe the many outdated, misleading and generally offensive stereotypes that continue to attach themselves to gay and transgender men and women?
Yes, we have pro-gay legislation in some part of the world, but anti-gay legislation in others. Besides, as I have often said on the blogs, you cannot legislate for bad attitude. Where schools and colleges refuse to go out of their way to educate these people, I guess all we can do is try and lead by example and hope for the best. True, it's not enough. It's nowhere near enough. But what else can we do?
OUT IN
THE COUNTRY
He asked
me to dance
on the
village green;
I jumped
at the chance
Though
neighbours askance
(some
thought it obscene)
he asked
me to dance
Forget
all that token stuff
about
poufs on-screen?
I jumped
at the chance
Band
playing by chance
our
favourite tune,
he asked
me to dance
Measuring
every advance,
treasuring
each joining-in;
I jumped
at the chance
A subtle
rush to ring-fence
(unsuitable
for children?);
He asked
me to dance,
I jumped
at the chance
Copyright R N Taber 2005
Copyright R N Taber 2005
[From: A Feeling for the Quickness of
Time by R. N. Taber,
Assembly Books, 2005]